To the Editor:
On “How to Party Without Regret” (Sunday Styles, June 23rd):
If I followed most of the advice in this article, I might actually leave the party with a lot of regret.
The art of coming together should be focused on being together (without strict prescriptive rules to follow, like you have right now) and building true connections. In a world where there is no end to what we have to do, I feel grateful almost every day just to share a meal with my loved ones. I am grateful no matter how they dress or how early they have to leave (e.g. to make room for a babysitter, or to answer a call for a night shift at the hospital).
You don’t need a guide on how to perform or how to assimilate to “fit in” in order to find like-minded peers.
I was particularly outraged by Rebecca Gardner’s statement: “Don’t ask people to take off their shoes when entering your apartment. It’s rude.”
As an Asian American woman who runs a home decor business, I regularly open my home to friends and family and host events for my community.
Have you ever seen the streets of New York City? It’s an absolute nuisance when people walk by with snow or dirt or God knows what else stuck to the bottom of their feet. It’s rude to offer culturally insensitive advice.
America is a diverse country, and there’s more than one way to throw a good party here.
Michelle Pham
new york
To the Editor:
No! No! No! Absolutely not! Until now Tell your host what you’re bringing. do not have Your party. everytime To help the host out, ask them what you can bring. They will know specifically what their party is like and will be able to let you know what you can provide for your guests.
I’ve hosted countless parties and I always appreciate people asking me what they should bring. Anyone who tells me what to bring is just arrogant and doesn’t respect my role as the host.
Rick Christianson
Water Mill, New York
To the Editor:
It’s totally exhausting and totally entertaining. The attitudes, the “rules”, the hypocrisy, the obvious insecurity on the part of both hosts and guests. Ah. Calm down everyone. It’s just a party.
Fran Miller
Lafayette, California
Giuliani and Trump
To the Editor:
Regarding “State appeals court rules Giuliani should be disbarred from practicing law in New York” (news article, July 3rd):
Rudolph Giuliani can no longer practice law in New York after a court found he told numerous lies “intended to sow distrust in the minds of our American citizens in our electoral system and to destroy confidence in the legitimacy of our government.”
Giuliani can’t practice law in New York, but Donald Trump can become president.
Doris Fenig
Floral Park, New York
Occupational Therapy for Seniors in New York
To the Editor:
Regarding “Why New York’s elderly are increasingly being placed in homeless shelters” (news article, June 29):
As the leader of New York City’s largest social service agency, I am acutely aware of the aging population living in our city’s shelters. Ensuring affordable and supportive housing is available to our older neighbors is important, but we need to go further.
Occupational therapy helps people strengthen their skills to carry out daily activities and, for older people in particular, these services enable them to age in place with dignity.
Occupational therapists in our shelters and supportive housing programs help older adults get to medical appointments, participate in enriching social opportunities, connect with community resources, and much more.
These supports have reduced unnecessary hospitalizations and nursing home admissions, and improved the physical and mental health of older adults.City senior housing programs should include robust occupational therapy services.
Eric Rosenbaum
new york
The author is President and CEO of Project Renewal.
